Leave Roomful and keep everyone

Leaving costs nothing.

Leaving an app usually means losing the people in it. Here nothing lived with us, so nothing is lost: your page, your Pool memberships and your consent proofs were elsewhere all along. Try it as Jonah. It is one button.

What Roomful holds for Jonah

All of it goes when he leaves.

Your sign-inYour email address, which is also your Kindling identity. We hold a copy; the identity is yours (§4.2).jonah@mail.example
Your room settingsThe order you chose, and whether to show only the people who fit what your page says you’re looking for, or everyone.order: as the curator lists them · show: who fits
Unlisted addresses you gave usKept only for you, never shown to anyone else. Jonah gave us none; Kit gave us one, Queer Harbor’s.0 for Jonah
A copy of public PoolsEveryone’s, not yours: the same public lists any app can read, refreshed when their hosts say so (§10.3).8 public Pools

What lives elsewhere, and stays

None of it is ours to delete.

Your pageYour date-me doc, on the host you chose, with your portrait, your age and who you’re looking for. It was never here; we read it there.docs.example/d/jonah-price-date-me
Your PoolsEach list you said yes to lives in its curator’s manifest, on the curator’s site.wrenslist.example/pools/date-me-docs-cascadia.json
Your consent proofsEach yes is kept inside that Pool’s entry for you: which request, and when (§3.4).hs-roomful-date-me-docs-cascadia-jonah-demo
Your conversationsEvery Kindling message is email underneath (§6.1). They’re in your inbox, and Maya’s.jonah@mail.example
Portraits and photosShown from each person’s own page and never copied, by us or by any Pool (§2.5). There is nothing to take back.none stored

The demo

Leave Roomful

The way outOpens out

Signed in to Roomful as jonah@mail.example

One button. No “are you sure”, no survey, no waiting period.

Leaving a Pool is a different thing

Leaving Roomful doesn’t take you out of any Pool; that is the point. To leave Wren’s list, that is one button too, and it takes effect within sixty seconds §5.3.

Answer Wren’s request

The same Jonah, through other doors

He is still here. We were only one way in.

When Jonah says yes to Wren, as he can on the introduction page, this is how he looks through three other doors. Leaving Roomful changes none of them.

On Wren’s own site · wrenslist.example

Jonah Price, Port Ellery. Boatbuilder, 34; cooks on Sundays, reads on the ferry.

docs.example/d/jonah-price-date-me

Email verified

In The Circular’s classifieds

Dating · via Wren’s List. Boatbuilder in Port Ellery, 34, looking for something that lasts. Cooks Sundays, reads on the ferry, likes early mornings. Doc at docs.example/d/jonah-price-date-me. Email verified.

As any app reads it: his entry in the manifest

{
  "profile_url": "https://docs.example/d/jonah-price-date-me",
  "parsed_profile": {
    "schema_version": "0.1",
    "profile_url": "https://docs.example/d/jonah-price-date-me",
    "display_name": "Jonah Price",
    "pronouns": "he/him",
    "location": {
      "city": "Port Ellery",
      "country": "United States"
    },
    "intent_tags": [
      "dating",
      "date-me-doc"
    ],
    "about": "My date-me doc. Boatbuilder, 34. I cook on Sundays, read on the ferry, and I am looking for something that lasts. Write to me if you like early mornings.",
    "contact_methods": [
      {
        "type": "email",
        "value": "jonah@mail.example",
        "label": "Kindling identity"
      }
    ],
    "verification": {
      "level": "email",
      "verified_at": "2026-09-28T09:00:00Z"
    },
    "messaging_preferences": {
      "accept_from": "verified",
      "no_cold_messages": false,
      "minimum_curator_verification": "email"
    },
    "kindling_noindex": false,
    "parsed_at": "2026-09-28T09:00:00Z",
    "parser": "kindling-parser/0.1.1"
  },
  "parsed_at": "2026-09-28T09:00:00Z",
  "consent_proof": {
    "handshake_id": "hs-roomful-date-me-docs-cascadia-jonah-demo",
    "accepted_at": "2026-09-28T09:00:00Z",
    "method": "email-link"
  },
  "verification_level": "email",
  "added_at": "2026-09-28T09:00:00Z",
  "added_by": "wren@mail.example"
}

Each client draws him its own way; these three are illustrations. The entry is what Wren’s List writes on his yes, checked against the schema when this page was built. Roomful keeps no copy.

Other apps, and the library

The first four are apps that keep a public dating Pool each, which anyone may read, and each reads Pools in its own way, for dating and more. Leave us, and the people are still there for whichever door you choose, each still deciding who may write.

Card CatalogSearch first, in drawers for dating and much more, with a field for everything people chose to fill in, and no ranking. A blank field stays blank.
HeartwoodRead the whole person first: prompts, answers and the other rooms they belong to. Friends have a Pool of their own.
Face UpOne card at a time, face up, in decks for a date and more. For dating, its trust desk checks each face against a live selfie before anyone is listed.
SundialOne introduction a day, at seven in the evening, on each dial you turn on, a date among them. Nothing to buy for more.
Familiar FacesA friendship app that also hosts no Pools. It reads the groups you already belong to.
Late SupperHuman matchmakers who have met you. Their public Pool lists them; their tables are unlisted.
Many MoonsA community for consensual non-monogamy in the harbor counties. Out in one Pool, private in another.
HearthholdIntroductions for chosen family: platonic partners, co-parents and housemates.
The CircularThe newspaper that reads every public Pool in town and prints them as classifieds.
The whole libraryEvery example built on Kindling, and the Pools they read.